QUEZON City, Philippines (June 26) – It is the brain not the heart that is responsible for our emotions. The brain gives off certain chemicals depending upon the emotion. But there are people that are naturally sensitive. Scientist found that about 20% of the world’s population are sensitive. This is connected to the gene that influences hormones called norepinephrine- a stress hormone that triggers attention and response.
Is being emotional good or bad?
Not everyone would know that you are sensitive or you cannot always wear a shirt saying you are sensitive. It is good to be aware of what you feel but you should not let yourself be overpowered by emotions. In business, it is an advantage for an employee to have a higher emotional quotient because at work you deal with people and personalities. What you should do is master the art of controlling emotion.
Tip # 1. Think of the future. When you say something, think about it first. When a person is driven by anger, he is overpowered by his emotion making him say things he shouldn’t have done. Imagine that your brilliant idea was rejected by your boss. After the meeting, you were mad and you confronted him in the hallway loud enough to be heard by anyone around. You quit your job and as you find another job, employers would ask why you quit or they can directly call the company for recommendation. This can be a threat to your reputation.
Tip # 2. Watch your words. Words are like knives; they can hurt and even kill. Be careful in choosing your words. When emotions are high, people tend to say things that they should not. Focus and keep yourself at the situation and not to say whatever you feel. Stay calm and keep in mind that emotions don’t last forever.
Words are powerful. Like the words of a writer, they may last forever. The person you hurt might still be thinking of the things you said fifteen years ago.
Tip # 3. Be honest to yourself. Sometimes we do not like what we feel. We question ourselves, “Why I feel this way?”. We have to identify why we feel this way. Being honest to what we feel actually prevents us from labeling a person. We think that the person’s attitude is the problem but actually, it is our’s.
Tip # 4. You can change your mood. We believe that our emotions just happen and we cannot change or alter it. But we can. By being busy you will not know that time passed and that your mood was altered by something. Also, this will prevent us from dwelling with the problem. It’s mind over matter.
Tip # 5. Be on someone’s shoes. Try to situate yourself with others. Think of yourself suffering the same. In this way, you will understand what they feel and know why they’re doing such things. Mostly, the problem starts with misunderstanding.
Think of this. Everyone has something going on, they’re just good at hiding. Be kind.
References:
http://www.wikihow.com/Overcome-Emotional-Sensitivity
http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/how-to-control-your-emotions/
(written by Karen Llacuna, edited by Jay Paul Carlos, additional research by Lovely Ann Cruz)
